Over time divorce rates and marriage rates have gradually moved closer. More are divorcing and less are marrying. (more…)
Archive for the ‘Christian Counseling’ Category
Marriage, Divorce and Living Together
Thursday, November 17th, 2011Using Grace to Change
Tuesday, September 13th, 2011What if instead of judging yourself, you fully accepted yourself as does God? The Christian concept of grace is based on the finished work of Jesus as a completely effective mediator between God and man. Depression, anxiety, and addictions all depend on a negative cycle and sense of inadequacy that is fed by stress, fear, and shame. (more…)
Can I Save my Marriage?
Tuesday, September 13th, 2011Here are ten signs your marriage is in trouble: (more…)
Attachment Patterns and God
Friday, September 9th, 2011To say that a parent’s attachment to his or her kids is strong may be a negative statement. Attachment is described as secure and insecure, so it is possible to have a strong attachment that is insecure. (more…)
Church Conflicts
Friday, July 15th, 2011Research by the Barna Group uncovered two surprising facts: (1) the majority of the nation’s non-churched are comprised of people, not who say they are not Christians, but who say they are, and (2) about 4 out of 10 of these stopped attending due to a “painful” or “negative” ordeal. Barna projected that at the current drop-out rate attendance nationally will be half of what it is today in 15 years. (more…)
Arresting Anxiety
Tuesday, January 18th, 2011“Be still and know that I am God” (Psalm 46:10a).
The same emotion can either be positive or negative in the Bible. The Bible may command an emotion in one place and prohibit it in another depending on the context. For example, “In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.” (Ephesians 4:26). Sorrow has its place but also has limits. Likewise, fear is appropriate in particular circumstances but a state of prolonged fear becomes problematic. (more…)
Top Ten Benefits to Christianity
Friday, November 19th, 2010While various human beliefs and interpretations of Christianity have played a part in creating havoc in personal and political realms, there are benefits to believing in a loving and personal God. These benefits are themselves topics of research. Each is also based on one’s faith (which is often based on what one wants to believe). Everyone has faith; the object of one’s faith differs. (more…)
Forgiving versus Reconciling
Tuesday, November 9th, 2010Many choose to forgive (based on Biblical precepts) because forgiveness has benefits for the forgiver. Forgiveness is a canceling of a “debt”. One can choose to forgive so that anger doesn’t destroy one’s own sense of well-being, though this may require a grieving process. To forgive is to release oneself from an expectation that another person has to fulfill some requirement or redeem the relationship. It is no longer holding in hostility. Restoring the relationship, though, is a step further. A Biblical example of reconciliation, the restoring of proper relationship, is forgiveness and repentance. Repentance is a u-turn involving a realization of the impact of a wrong, full remorse, a commitment to change, and actual behavioral changes over time. (more…)
Connection before Correction
Friday, October 29th, 2010While doing right leads to healthy relationships, the Bible also promotes the opposite: healthy relationships leads to doing right. (more…)
Is Divorce a Sin?
Wednesday, September 15th, 2010Churches proclaim divorce to be a sin with certain exceptions. These exceptions depend on which church you attend. Some believe divorce is a sin unless there is sexual infidelity, but what about abuse or neglect of a spouse? (more…)